Aug. 11th, 2011 11:05 pm
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My understanding, via popular culture, is that many young girls spend some time imagining themselves as mothers. "I will have X number of children and I will name them A, B, and C!", "I will never say X!", I am told they say to themselves. I, for the most part, did not ever imagine myself as a mother. But here I am. (And loving it, for the most part!) The one exception is that I recall my parents declining to sit on the floor and I remember promising myself, as a young child, that if I was ever a parent, I would sit on the floor to play with my child. I am very happy to say that, so far, I am keeping the promise I made to myself way back when.

What about y'all? When you were small, did you imagine yourself as a parent some day? Did you have specific things you were/were not going to do? Have you done/not done them?

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Date: 2011-08-12 05:10 am (UTC)
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I've always imagined myself as a parent, like long before I could imagine myself dating. (There was an adolescent period of "I guess I'll have to get artificially inseminated or have a one-night stand or something", since I hit those particular hormones later than my peers.) Two kids (because my parents had three and it was unbalanced). Preferably girls (because I know nothing about boy-children). Names are hard — my obsessively reading baby name books as a kid had nothing to do with naming hypothetical future children and everything to do with collecting names. I always thought it weird that other kids had specific plans about what to name their kids.

Most of my "I will never do that" vows are responses to specific things my parents did to me. The big one is not yelling at people to stop crying, and it just gets depressing to go through all of them. I'd like to have a successful marriage someday, but that's hard to control from here. I have no idea if I'll live up to my hopes, or even if I'll have kids.

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Date: 2011-08-12 12:17 pm (UTC)
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Back when I was about 8 we had a class project of imagining what it would be like in the year 2000 and what we would be doing, etc. I remember doing the math and figuring out how old I'd be--I kind of figured I'd be married and a mother, mostly because I had no other role models for women at that time.

But even at that same time, or a year or two later, playing with my friends, I would never play the mom. I'd play the dad, who went away to work and came home in the evening (telling, huh?). Never daydreamed about my future kids, gave them names or anything like that. Apparently, I've been childfree for a looooonnng time. ;)


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